These Are The 6 Things That Nobody Should feel Ashamed Of (2021)

It's a well-established fact that everyone has insecurities, some are greater than others, some of us can control them, and some of us can't but help to feel ashamed about their weaknesses. 

Today, we'll be showing you the 6 things that no one should be ashamed of.

Those are the top 6 things students from 14 different universities said that they feel the most ashamed about.

Let's dive in!

1. Appearance

If stylists, makeup artists, and photographers didn't exist, beauty standards would be much less than where they are right now. In a world where supposedly perfect people are on every screen - slim, fit, with perfect skins and symmetrical faces, no wonder that the average person will feel at least uncomfortable. Especially if he is a teenager or someone with insecurities about his looks.

Yes, the situation is changing, people with non-standard appearance make themselves known, also, brands and moviemakers are starting to notice them. But change happens slowly, and someone who is not like the rest and can easily be offended is always going to get hurt.

Your appearance is not your in your hands, it is the thing that is given to us from birth, and we can't radically change it. It's part of your identity and what makes of you, you!

You should only be taking care of yourself, and always look your best. Take care of your hygiene and health. Without surgery, you can't actually change anything about your appearance. Even the excess weight, which is shaming obese people, is often inherited by us, in the form of the genetics of obesity and in the form of the composition of the intestinal microflora 'The Gut Microbiome". All of that influences obesity, eating habits, and eating disorders.

Therefore, if you do not fit into the canons, this is not a reason to shame and scold yourself. The main thing is to take care of your health and observe personal hygiene, and it is not your duty to please someone's eyes. People have the right to look the way they want, as long as they aren't disrespectful to others. 

2. Financial Situation And Income

For people with low incomes, society came up with a whole set of offensive words to bully. There is a custom that earnings and the level of well-being are completely dependent on a person. By working hard and trying enough, one will bring success and money. Otherwise, if that person is just living a modest life, it means that he is just a lazy, uninitiated loser and is to blame for everything he hasn't achieve.

But the truth is, the level of income is made up of a huge number of factors and not all of them depend on us.

Physical and mental health, upbringing, character traits, the financial situation of parents, the place of residence, education, the environment in which a person grew and rotated, luck, and much more. Even the willpower, which everyone around is urging to develop, is due to genetics.

A couple of years ago, a video appeared on the web and social media, that perfectly illustrated how much we are not equal. In the video, a group of young people are going to race, but the organizer asks those who grew up in a complete family, had the opportunity to study in a good school, and did not suffer from poverty to take a step forward. And in the end, it turned out that the path to the finish line — to success — is much shorter for those who pulled out a lucky ticket at birth.

This does not mean that you need to fold your legs and stop trying. But if you earn a little now, live very modestly, and cannot afford expensively furniture, clothes, or travel, you should not be ashamed of it at all.

It also works in the other direction, If you didn’t deceive anyone, didn’t take bribes, didn’t steal, but at the same time you make very good money —it does not matter if you got lucky — you have nothing to feel shame, guilt or awkwardness, towards others who are less fortunate than you.

3. Family

Someone gets a sensitive and loving mom and dad, and someone's parents show cruelty, alcoholism, crimes, destroy both their own lives and the lives of their own children.

Those unfortunate enough to grow up in such an environment are often ashamed of their parents' behavior. But being in a difficult family is not a shame. We do not choose parents, and the one who made the mistake should feel guilty, not the one who became the victim of the situation.

This doesn't apply to parents only, any member of the family is responsible for his own actions, and your only responsibility is to advice them, otherwise, it's not your fault.

4. Work

In 2018, DailyMail published "From learning lines to serving the long line!" With a photograph of the actor Geoffrey Owens at the checkout counter in a supermarket. His acting career did not work out, and he was forced to go to work as a cashier to feed himself and his family. The tone of the publication was somewhat mocking: "From memorizing roles to serving queues." At first, jokes fell on Owens, but then newspaper readers, fellow actors, and just caring people began to write massive posts in support of him.

A similar story later happened to former actress Katie Jarvis, she played "Hayley Slater" in EastEnders. The star was spotted working as a security guard at B&M Bargains. These situations have been talked about as egregious cases of job shaming.

It's a standard for those who are engaged in low-skilled labor are subjected to such harassment, people such as sales consultants, cashiers, security guards, porters, waiters, and so on.

And this problem is not only found in the U.S but all around the globe.

If someone does not do anything illegal, he does not deserve such an attitude, everyone has different starting points. Besides, we do not always choose how our life will turn out.  There is absolutely no merit of being ashamed of honest work, whatever it is!

5. Being Single

Single women are called blue stockings and are reminded of the ticking clock and the prospect of meeting old age in the company of 40 cats. Society is more indulgent towards single men, but they are also teased by making jokes about bachelor life and the inability to cook soup or wash socks on their own.

If a loner is in the company of married couples, he/she will certainly be given advice on how to build a relationship and get married.

Unsurprisingly, a lonely person often feels uncomfortable, especially if it's a woman over 35. But the absence of a couple is not a flaw and not a reason to be ashamed of. It means that you just haven't met the right person yet. Or maybe they deliberately chose to remain alone - as some people have a certain attitude towards marriages and divorces.

6. Character Traits

For example, introversion or shyness, and sensitivity or vulnerability. In a word, any traits that do not harm anyone, but often cause confusion. You often get asked "Why do you always sit in a corner and not talk to anyone! Do not isolate yourself! ", "Are you sad? ", " Are you afraid of people?"

As a result, an unsociable individual begins to worry that something is wrong with him, and is ashamed of his qualities or interests. But it should be not him who should be ashamed, those who make those claims should.

You recharge on your own, you find your peace when you are doing your things all by yourself, that's fine, you are just like that, and it's what makes you special. People who need other people to relax don't get that, so don't worry about what they say.

Always remember, Your life is only your business, you don't have to worry about someone else's opinion.

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